Are you experiencing midlife doing the same routine day after day, rarely remembering what you did the day before, and feeling as though you have nothing to look forward to? Perhaps you’re living your life, but never enjoying it or anything in it. If this sounds familiar, you are probably living your life, and the relationships in it, on autopilot.
The really devastating part about living life this way, especially when it comes to your relationships, is that you often don't even realize you're doing it. You're just floating through life, wishing for more, but you may not really be sure how to make a change…how to get what you want or how to feel better and more joyful.
While many people sadly live out their entire lives on autopilot, the way to create a truly rewarding and abundant life is to become totally aware, open, and adaptable. It’s choosing to live life from this day forth consciously and focusing on what it is your heart wants for you with excitement, gratitude, and joy.
So, how do you do that?
- Stop and smell the roses. Take time to notice all the little joyful things around you that you used to enjoy when you were 6 years old. It’s smiling, giggling, tickling, and deep belly laughs…even for no apparent reason.
- Have you thought about what you want to be, do, and have in your life lately? Well, it’s time to do that now. Make a list of all of your desires. Tell that little inner critic that resides in your logical brain to stop bothering you with the whisperings of why you can’t. Listen to your heart instead as it understands best your deepest desires. Then take one little action toward just one of your desires today! Even, baby steps each day move you forward.
- Are you in a relationship? When was the last time you did something new with your partner? When was the last time you even wanted to? Start thinking about your relationship and stop just "being in it". Try something new! Remember what it was that attracted you two together. I invite you to plan a date night.
- If you’re not in a relationship, be kind and compassionate and give yourself a hug, buy yourself some flowers, and take yourself or a friend to dinner – you are amazing and deserve to treat yourself!
Finally, if you find that you’re on autopilot or feeling little joy, don’t despair any longer. Your life is simply out of balance.
Perhaps life is feeling too stressful, too complicated, too boring, or you have surrendered your life to the "routine", the “not enough-ness”. Plan to take one day this week and really think about your life. Get a journal and write down everything you are feeling…the good, the bad, the ugly. Then write down what you want to be, do, and have and most importantly how you want to feel and show up going forward.
How can you shake things up? Make them interesting? How can you get back into balance and in love with your life again? Can you see yourself dancing around your room and giggling like the little six-year-old inside of you? Does just thinking about this bring a smile to your face? (I hope so.)
Always remember, you can simply choose to rebalance your life and make your world brighter.
You are always supported. You are infinitely loved. Let the whispers of your heart lead your way.
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